The scary idea of being helped. Where did that come from?
The first answer that comes to mind: along the way many of us learned that receiving help, or not being able to do something on our own, equals weakness. We learned asking for, or receiving, help meant we were incapable. Thus the only way to prove our absolute capability was to go it alone. In her book “All About Love” bell hooks observes the development of the individualistic perspective in American culture and how it isolates us from community. That myth keeps us from connecting, and robs us of the magic that comes from interdependence.
It got us thinking about what a unique and valuable role we play in our clients lives. How lucky are we that they would come to us for help! We get to witness and collaborate with our clients as they challenge themselves to heal and grow - releasing control and putting their wellbeing in our hands. It then occurred to us how amazing, and beautifully weird, that clients let us stare at them and help them move their bodies for one whole hour each week. We have witnessed the profound ripple effects of providing yourself the experience of having someone hold space and purpose for you without any expectation of reciprocity. It is spectacular!
What would the world be like if we all more ease-fully received help? How might we all feel a little more safe, a little more seen, a little more cared for?
You are worthy of having someone to focus on you, no matter if it’s Pilates, massage, a bookkeeper, a coach, a therapist, even a neighbor to help you get up and down the stairs when you’re injured. At the risk of repeating well worn phrases the health and wellness industry spits out, the sentiment remains true:
Asking for and receiving help is a courageous act, because letting people in and dropping down barriers is counter culture.
You’re worthy of connected communal care and support.
Call to Action in the Name of Change
As mindful movement practitioners, we are in the business of supporting and guiding our clients through change. That change does not happen in a vacuum, but instead has ripple effects. In that way, we are in the business of change in the individual, the community, and the world.
This month we simply wanted to share resources we believe in to give and receive help for the mind, body, and spirit.
MIND:
Betterhelp
Heather Edwards LMHC
Evin Lawson LMSW
Tony Vilanova MS, LMFT
BODY:
New York Abortion Access Fund
CHiPS - Brooklyn
Blackswell Birth Foundation
Sanctuary for Families
SPIRIT:
MamaP Eco Friendly products
Brown Girls Do Ballet
Alltrue Conscious Artisan products
Harbor Light Grief Coaching